Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. So, when he heard that Lazarus was ill, he stayed two days longer in the place where he was. John 11:5-6
There is a category of thought here that I think is infinitely important. How can this be love? Clearly John wants us to ask this question.
Before Lazarus died Jesus told his disciples that his illness “is for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified through it” (John 11:4). And after Lazarus dies and Jesus raises him from the dead he says to them, “Did I not tell you that if you believed you would see the glory of God?” (John 11:40).
This makes me ask, “What were you trying to tell me here, John?” The main way John shows us what love is is by showing us that love does whatever it has to do to provide the beloved with the deepest and longest satisfaction, which is the glory of God.