1 Timothy 3:4-5 He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?
The word “manage” is a wonderful word with at least two dimensions of meaning to it. It means literally “to stand before.” And you can stand before as one who leads, and as one who protects or provides. The focus in this verse is care. You can see that at the end of the verse. The verse starts with a reference to managing or leading the home, but it ends with a reference to caring for the church.
So what we have here is another biblical illustration that leadership in the church is to be servant leadership or caring. The aim of leadership is not coercion but care. It’s just what Jesus said in Luke 22:26, “Let the greatest among you become as the youngest, and the leader as one who serves.”
So what Paul is saying is that the way a man manages his own household is a good test of whether he can provide what the church really needs, namely, leadership that has a caring heart, and a caring heart that has the strength to lead.